There’s what you think, and there’s what everybody else is thinking.
There’s a gap in between the two, because you don’t share the same concerns as everybody else and vice versa.
So while self-consciousness and doubt is a real beast to tame, yours is the least of everybody else’s concerns.
Mind the gap when you cross to the other side.
Getting things right and smooth sailing the very first time is unrealistic.
The more open road we can take is the one where we trip and fall over often. It’s filled with potholes, speed bumps, and signs to make you second guess your choices.
It’s not nearly as user friendly as you’d want it, but it’s the only way to go if you’re planning on tending to your practice more than once.
Systems aren’t designed fairly for everybody. One system most of us know well is the school system.
It isn’t fair that some people are born with a great memory that allows them to ace any knowledge-based test with minimal prep time.
It isn’t fair that the course material gets taught to a class in an auditory way, where a fair portion of those students will learn better and faster in tactile ways.
It isn’t fair that students with hidden learning disabilities are put up to the same processes as everybody else.
It isn’t fair that those attending college from a lower income bracket will face more adversity during their school years than others.
And the list goes on.
“It’s just how it is” shows a voice who doesn’t want to bother changing the roots of the system because it’s infamously difficult to nudge a tangled mess forward.
Instead, “How might we” is a voice of possibility and change, even under the sturdiest of wicked, longstanding systems.
We risk the potential for stronger, more resilient communities by ignoring our weaknesses. And so we have to constantly seek and mend uneven patches in our systems so that we can include everybody.