Reference Points

After spending 4 or 5 years in a specific educational institution surrounded by specific people with similar interests, we’ve created mental reference points for ourselves. That is, if we haven’t reached certain milestones like landing an internship at a major tech firm, moving out of our parent’s homes, marriage, getting a “real job”, doing freelance work for major clients, moving onto higher level education (and the list goes on), then we feel misplaced or left behind.

Sometimes what we need is a reminder that there’s much more on offer than what our peers, family members, or colleagues are doing.

What we see is such a small, narrow tangent of reality. 

We’d be robbing ourselves of all the chances we could take to move onwards if we choose to fixate on such a thin string of the world.  

Digital Space

The internet has provided us seemingly unlimited and unclaimed territory so that we could connect, share, and stretch ourselves as creatives.

It’s a bargain to have access to such a diverse, dense, digital environment at an affordable monthly cost. Yet, we’re not all going to use it the same way. 

It’s not enough that the internet is there and is available to use. It also has to accommodate our personal interests, which is why we have so many different platforms with so many different communities and functions.

We find belonging and acceptance within these pockets of the world, and it’s comforting to know that we will have spaces to go where the people will understand us.

If you’re looking for a space to vent or to pick a fight, there’s a certain space for you on the internet. In the same way, if you’re looking to find your own voice and in good company, there’s a space for you on the internet too.

And, if you’re here for the latter, then I thank you for trusting in me to provide it to you.

On Societal Expectations

1. What is it? And,

2. Who is it for? 

Arguably the two most important questions anytime, anywhere.

When it comes to societal expectations, they’re just that—expectations. They’re things that other people without knowing you have imposed onto your personal life. 

Societal expectations are guidelines for what’s generally safe and accepted from a wider community. 

So when we answer the two questions in the context of who we are, the answers are simply:
1. Your life
2. For you

Of course, there was an expectation that there would be some sort of life changing moment after graduating at 22 from school. Of course there was an expectation that many of us would be holding some sort of happy steady job by now. But expectations don’t always map to our personal reality. 

Living your life, for you, means removing societal expectations in exchange for what would bring more value for yourself (not your mom, your dad, cousin, coach, friend, or whoever else).

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