“Everybody loves it”—who’s everybody?
And on the other end, “Everybody hates it”.
Is the reality just 3 people out of 15? Or just one strong opinion from a singular person?
End-of-spectrum thinking leaves us little room to see better.
It could be more helpful to be more specific. For example, “Kate found a lot of value in x, because it helped her y. Going forward, we could z so that we can improve our product.”
Or on the other end, “Claire finds x annoying, because it detracts from what she really wants. In order to minimize this friction, we should y.”
Being more specific breaks the chunkiness from absolute thinking. It’s also more valuable to understand the context behind the opinions and advice we’re given from others than to accept them at face value.
Remember the idea that ran through your mind the other day? Remember how you trashed it the moment you gave it more thought because you thought nobody else would care?
Maybe the only reason it was trashy was because you didn’t think it was good enough.
Not the others, but you.
When we reject too often or too quickly, we never give anything a chance to see daylight.
Your trashy ideas and thoughts might just be the thing someone else needs (but they’ll never get to know it because it was thrown away a hair too early).
The more chances we give, the more likely we’ll get to make the changes we seek to make.
I think it might work, but it might not.
It has a chance of being wrong, but it might be right.
We don’t have the answers to everything, but if we’re not willing to test then we’ll never know.