The internet has provided us seemingly unlimited and unclaimed territory so that we could connect, share, and stretch ourselves as creatives.
It’s a bargain to have access to such a diverse, dense, digital environment at an affordable monthly cost. Yet, we’re not all going to use it the same way.
It’s not enough that the internet is there and is available to use. It also has to accommodate our personal interests, which is why we have so many different platforms with so many different communities and functions.
We find belonging and acceptance within these pockets of the world, and it’s comforting to know that we will have spaces to go where the people will understand us.
If you’re looking for a space to vent or to pick a fight, there’s a certain space for you on the internet. In the same way, if you’re looking to find your own voice and in good company, there’s a space for you on the internet too.
And, if you’re here for the latter, then I thank you for trusting in me to provide it to you.
1. What is it? And,
2. Who is it for?
Arguably the two most important questions anytime, anywhere.
When it comes to societal expectations, they’re just that—expectations. They’re things that other people without knowing you have imposed onto your personal life.
Societal expectations are guidelines for what’s generally safe and accepted from a wider community.
So when we answer the two questions in the context of who we are, the answers are simply:
1. Your life
2. For you
Of course, there was an expectation that there would be some sort of life changing moment after graduating at 22 from school. Of course there was an expectation that many of us would be holding some sort of happy steady job by now. But expectations don’t always map to our personal reality.
Living your life, for you, means removing societal expectations in exchange for what would bring more value for yourself (not your mom, your dad, cousin, coach, friend, or whoever else).
There’s only so much time in a day, in a year, and in a lifetime.
Which means for a limited time only, you have a choice. And that choice is either to learn to accept yourself (shortcomings et al.) or to let insecurity allow you to hide.
The first one is really hard. Nobody wants to face the things that haunt them, and it’s challenging to intentionally create short term friction in return for long term benefits.
But again since our time is so limited, it’s the only thing worth doing that’s left.