The great thing about 50 years from now is that it continuously relies on who we are today, which is moldable and directable. The only promise we have to keep making is not to take cheap short cuts or fall into greed for shortsighted wins.
Back when I was still deep into my own shell, I used to blame my parents or other authoritarian figures in my life for my lack of being socially comfortable, shy, and/or awkwardness. It was easy and passive to say, “Hey, it’s not my fault. I was raised like this.”
As I grew older, it became frustrating to have others speak on my behalf.
And so, when I finally began picking up the pieces to talk, I realized that there was nobody who would be able to represent me except for myself. It sounds plainly obvious, but I avoided it for years. There was nobody to blame for my social shortcomings except me.
I can’t show my designs to the client, it’s not good enough.
Nobody would want to see my paintings, I’m too rusty.
These drawings suck.
I screwed up my presentation because I was too nervous.
I’m not spending my time at home productively enough.
The first to judge is always ourselves. Most of the time, our problems are selfish enough so that other people won’t truly care the same way we do. However, that doesn’t stop us from feeling guilty, frustrated, anxious, or disappointed.
It’s okay to feel negative towards our own judgement for a while.
What’s next to consider is how we handle our own opinions.
Who exactly are the designs or paintings for?
What did your presentation audience actually think?
What instead is your time meant for, if not for what you’re already doing?
Judgement is okay. It’s normal. What we can change is how we deal with it.