Growing up, it was difficult to fully immerse myself in experiences sometimes because I was worried of what others would think of me. I was always concerned with others’ opinions of who I was, and doing that left no time for myself to define who I actually was.
Fast forward some years, I met people who didn’t feel like the usual crowd I choose to spend time with. They were kind, sincere, and loved adventure (me? adventurous? no way right?).
These were friends who believed in living fully, genuinely, and together. They knew I was shy, but that didn’t stop them from dragging me out from my room. They extended their adventurous invitations to me constantly, and all I needed to do was say yes, yes, and yes. By doing so, I was introduced to a new facet of the world, and learned more about being a myself.
The point of these notes is to further extend the invitation onto you.
Will you join in and share a piece of yourself to the people around you? It can be small (or even tiny). We need more small voices in the room because I think more people would like to get to know you.
Sometimes we just need a small push or a quiet whisper from somebody else to encourage us to start. But, let me put this in another way: If your best friend, sister, or a trusted colleague was holding herself back from starting something she loved, what would you say to her?
Of course you would encourage her to do it. She would be frustrated and regretful if she doesn’t.
Can we treat ourselves the same way we would treat our loved ones?
Having a small voice isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Most of the time we get told that being quiet, shy, introverted, and reserved isn’t the right behaviour to show up with in a professional setting. We’ve been told all our lives to speak up and talk louder, when the voice we project is already quite extended over our usual comfort zone.
While thousands if not millions of us struggle with having quiet voices, it’s worth noting that a lot of us have something of value to say.
Yet the struggle remains.
How do we get our words across to the other side?
The age old saying comes into play, and it says: communication is key. Luckily for us, there are over a thousand ways to communicate. Speaking is only one of them. We can get a lot across in a post on LinkedIn, a song written for a significant other, a handwritten note, a sequence of emails, the way we dress, interpretive dance, the way we knock on a co-workers door, by leaving the dishes in the sink—you get the point.
The only thing that matters is the value of what we offer. Meaning, we can lash and scream across the meeting room all we want, but no one is going to listen if it doesn’t carry any meaning. Instead, we can use our small voices and make others lean in because what we have to say will contribute and make a difference.